Portland dating & matchmaking experts reveal a new set of rules for dating success!
When it comes to dating and finding love, there are certain dating rules that people would be dumb not to follow. Maybe you are a firm believer that you need to fall in love within the first few seconds, maybe you’re the type of person who believes the kiss tells it all, or maybe you believe if you feel fireworks that your date is a keeper, and, well, if you don’t, you cut them off. Well, those old school dating rules might still have their fans, dating and relationships experts, like those at Portland Singles, know those dating rules might not hold true in today’s modern dating world. To put it in simple terms, many old dating rules need a little revamping.
Today, Portland matchmaking experts have composed some new dating rules that will surely work in your favor. Without further ado, let’s be out with the old and in with the new!
Old Rule to Discard: You can tell you’ll be attracted to them within the first few seconds.
New Rule In: You can’t tell you’re attracted to someone until you’ve given it a few dates.
Love at first sight exists in Hollywood movies, but in our modern, fast paced world it’s very hard to tell if you’ll click and hit it off with someone in the first few minutes. Portland dating and relationship experts know that it takes time to cultivate a relationship; therefore, you need to be patient and date the person to see if they’re a match for you.
People are a bundle of nerves on first dates and it might prevent you from seeing the real version of them. It can take until the third date for someone to completely relax and open up, and while sparks early on are great, they say nothing about someone’s long term potential. It is very important that if you want a serious relationship that you ensure compatibility, and that takes time, discussions, and observations. Don’t write someone off if you don’t feel sparks and butterflies on the first date; wait until you’ve done your due diligence
Old Rule to Discard: Your date needs to meet everything on your must-have list.
New Rule In: a must-have list is great, but they don’t need to fulfill the whole thing.
You can check off the attributes you want in a partner–appearance, background, education, career, and salary—but unless you are creating a partner in a laboratory, you’re certainly not going to have it all. Of course you should have standards and never settle for anything, like you don’t want to settle for a smoker if you hate cigarettes, but settling for nothing less than perfection is completely unrealistic.
Having a mile long list is a recipe for unsuccessful dating. Portland dating and relationship experts know that by having a mile long list you are only limiting your chances of finding love. They recommend being flexible, especially when it comes to physical and material attributes, such as height, salary, or hair color. After all, just because the man you want to date is six foot two or the woman you want to be with is blond, it doesn’t mean they’ll make you happy in a relationship.
Old Rule to Discard: Opposites attract.
New Rule In: Opposites do not attract.
Dating your complete opposite might mean that your relationship will be full of surprises and adventure, but dating someone who is the complete opposite to you will prove to be unfulfilling in the end. The classic couples with nothing in common believe their relationships will work out just like they do in the movies, but just because you can’t keep your hands off each other does not mean the relationship will last.
That attraction you feel right now will eventually fizzle out. If the two of you don’t like the same things and share common interests, there won’t be anything for you guys to do. And if you both don’t share the same views on the future, what future will the two of you have? Now, this isn’t to say that you should date your identical twin, but ideally, you should date someone who is on the same path as you. See the next rule.
Old Rule to Discard: They have the same tastes as you, so they must be your soul mate.
New Rule In: You want to fall for someone who is unique.
Sometimes you meet a person who has so much in common with you and you think it is absolutely love, it has to be. After all, each of you has seen Guns & Roses perform over 20 times and know every word to all the songs! Portland dating and relationship experts don’t want you to confuse having mirror-image tastes with being in love. In fact, some things are better left unmatched. Not only does this leave room to expand your boundaries, but it also means the two of you will have a hard time keeping a healthy independence. Some of the best relationships out there are those where couples have different hobbies, so take it as a good sign if you spend a Friday night apart from each other, with you doing yoga classes while your partner watches an NBA game or you having poker night with the guys while she’s visiting her sister.
Old Rule to Discard: Your first kiss should be mind-blowing.
New Rule In: Your first kiss shouldn’t matter.
In fairy-tales, it’s the first kiss that leads to a happily ever after life, so no wonder people put so much emphasis on a first kiss. There are many reasons why a first kiss can go sour quickly, like because of nervousness and the less than perfect setting it takes place in. Think about it, how can kissing a stranger feel so right? A kiss can be romantic for sure, but it’s better when you kiss someone you already have a connection with.
If you’re struggling to date and find your ideal partner, it could be because you’re following old dating rules that no longer apply. To freshen up your romantic life, follow these helpful new dating rules from Portland dating experts at Portland Singles.
If you’re a busy professional looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right, contact the matchmaking professionals at Portland Singles Dating Service and let them introduce you to mature singles who are also serious about finding love.
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