Today, a trusted local dating and matchmaking service, Portland Singles, will review if your man is being smart with money or simply a cheapskate.
Money is a very sticky topic when it comes to dating. And actually, it can be one of the many reasons couples break up. While flashy shows or overspending might indicate someone is foolish when it comes to money, a date who keeps his wallet on lockdown can also be an indication of a red flag for the future together. Either way, he’s going to give you a preview of how he will treat you for the next few years.
So how can you tell if your date is just keeping an eye on his finances or if he is being a scrooge? Look for these tell-tale signs from Portland matchmakers at Portland Singles Dating Service. The way a man handles his money can be a big stressor in a relationship in the future.
1. He Only Asks You on Coffee Dates
Coffee dates are great and they can actually be some of the most efficient dates out there, but if he only asks you for a coffee date and can’t invest more than a dollar or two, it might be time to start questioning how much he values your company. Nothing screams out, “I’m keeping our dates casual (and cheap),” like repetitive coffee dates. He needs to be able to come up with more date ideas, not just a place he invests a dollar to get a quick caffeine fix.
2. He Wants to Split All Entrees
Splitting an entrée or appetizer can be romantic, but if that’s the main dish, no way! If he only wants to split an appetizer, it can be a sign of further things to come in your relationship. He might be looking to split more things with you; split his time, his energy, and even the gas bill. Be aware of this behavior.
3. He Thinks You Will Always Split the Bill
There is nothing worse for a woman than when a man invites them out on a first date and starts talking about women’s equality right before the date ends and the bill arrives. Yes, in this modern world Portland matchmakers know women are very capable of fending for themselves, but the general rule of dating is that if a man asks her out, he should pay. Of course you should always do the purse reach when the check arrives or offer to leave the tip, but if you are dating a cheapskate, he will make you dig a little deeper.
4. He Uses Coupons on All Dates
There is no doubt that dating can be pricey and there are a lot of good deals out there, but during a first date it is crucial to leave a good first impression. Everyone can agree that discount coupons are great if you want to do some grocery shopping, but if you’re thinking about using them while out on a first date, that’s a big no-no. Save those coupons for when you are seriously dating and want to go out for frozen yogurt on a Sunday afternoon. Talking about or using coupons on a first date can be as annoying as talking about an ex. When you are already with someone for many months or years, it’s okay to save a few dollars together, and it can actually be kind of fun.
5. He Doesn’t Buy You Drinks When You Go Out
Unless he suffers from an alcohol addiction, in which case it’s great he’s staying on the wagon, this one can be a very quick indication of a cheapskate. A cheapskate already knows that alcoholic drinks quickly add up and they will be very unwilling to invest in a couple drinks while you’re out.
6. He Tells You He Already Ate a Big Meal at Home
If you know you’re going out to eat, why on earth would you eat a huge meal beforehand? If he has asked you out on a date, shouldn’t he share the same experience with you? You can eat alone any time, but sharing lunch or dinner with someone is very special. Leaving you to be the only one who eats at the restaurant is a good indication that you have a cheapskate on your hands.
7. He Always Find Something Wrong to Get a Discount
The last thing you want to do is date a man who is always asking to get the manager for something. This is the type of man who will nickel and dime his way through his whole life, and Portland matchmakers know that is not likely the type of man you want to settle down with. If your date has cheapskate tendencies, he might also have some other unattractive ones as well. When someone is always trying to get something discounted when they really don’t deserve it, it can be a huge red flag that you’re dealing with someone who always feel entitled.
8. He Never Tips Enough
The way a man tips at the end of a meal is a great way of knowing how he handles his money. If he doesn’t tip well at the end of a first date, then his first impression will go down the drain, and very quickly if you’re like most women who believe in tipping well. Even if the service was bad, he should have at least left something for the server, especially so you don’t feel like you need to be the one to sneak a better tip when he’s not looking. The truth is, if a man cannot afford to tip the waiter, he should not be going out to eat in the first place, right?
9. He Takes You on Free Dates
Many modern women like dating social men, the ones that know promoters and get them into posh restaurants and clubs for no cost, and that is great. However, if the man you’re dating only takes you out on a free dates, then he is a cheapskate. Beware of men who are not willing to invest money on you.
10. He Always Forgets His Wallet
Forgetting a wallet at home can be a mistake any man can make; however, if every time the two of you go out to eat he somehow forgets his wallet, then it’s not because he’s careless, it’s because he’s a cheapskate. If your date can’t remember to show up with money, then get rid of him. A truly genuine man would never do this to a lady.
If you’re looking to meet successful, mature men in the Portland area, contact Portland matchmakers at Portland Singles today. Let them start introducing you to quality men who fit your dating criteria.
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